How to change a way of thinking

Now use the memory to find in his last moments like this, when you are not taken care of someone proved to be selfish, avaricious, unkind or when causing harm to others. Find a number of such examples.

Now imagine that you every day for a long time to fix these cases. Day after day you intentionally recall similar episodes and experience in this regard, painful feelings.

Soon you will begin to say to yourself that really are mean-spirited and selfish person. If you continue this practice, it would be literally hypnotized and convinced himself that he was selfish and mean-spirited type just have yourself, and then began to gradually become just such a man. This belief would become self-sufficient and self-fulfilling.

The situation is similar to our existing real negative qualities. We have programmed ourselves, without even realizing, how and when to implement it. With the help of multiple repetitions and selective memory, we hypnotized himself and acquired the belief that she underestimated and belittling human version, we currently have inspired, and it really is us.

But you can change all this. You can look inward in search of evidence of any positive qualities that you would like to possess. Explore the past, referring to such purpose.

Do not let bylomu reinforce entrenched in your limits; use it to enhance what and who you want to become. Be diligent in this occupation. Use your mind to the inherent selectivity in their own interests and for their own benefit.

Exercise №4

To maintain discipline this assignment, I deliberately got himself notes, where there are days when I was working with this technique. The study of his personality, it is desirable to record negative beliefs that you were able to recognize and write in front of them positive.

For example: I'm insecure people - I am a confident person, I can not find a job - I have a great job, which I am happy, and so on To these beliefs took root in your mind you must scroll through them during the day (for example, I do it in the morning and evening + leisure time Affairs) for 10 minutes each.

You should not be sprayed directly on all 20-30 items that you wrote and choose the most relevant at the moment, and work with them. Time - at least a month, although the results will be visible after a week of quality performance. The main thing is not just to repeat these words and feel. You see and feel now so how you want to be.

The more sensations and visual images you add, the better. Throughout the 10 minutes you have to be sure that it is real and is here and now. It is advisable to remember about this state and throughout the day as possible. Then just have the habit of positive thinking and thinking accordingly to the type of people with which you want to become.

Home relax and have fun on the practice. Not the fact that soon will reach the desired state. After all, your old beliefs were formed and strengthened in a day! The result of my work I was even surprised. My head does not appear negative thoughts that used to live there simply.

If a situation arises for which my mind reacted outburst of such thoughts, I found that peace and joy inside me does not change. Previously, sometimes there were some physical discomfort, which also disappeared.

Inside, only the freedom, happiness and comfort!

And what you want!

Find love

We want to find love - start with yourself

Again on the subject of self-love.

The other day I heard from a friend: "Well, is not it, Prince, where do I get it? I am looking to meet, and it's not that all or busy, or "mine", not "the Prince." Well, what are the reasons? "

In such cases usually I ask: "Are you ready itself to meet her Prince? "

The question, interviewees often putting a dead end: many, it turns out, did not even think. If we take a broader view, we are always able to recognize that this is - "mine"? In general, as far as mature enough to let into your life - I Love Him, the One?

Here is the opinion of Natalia Pravdina, a renowned expert in the field of positive psychology.

"He lives, for example, young (or not so young) girl who dreams that will be a beautiful prince will take her to him and that's when she will be all right. That is, it builds a model: Now I feel bad, but will love - and I will be good.

This harmful in all respects and supports the installation of a fairy tale. Think of "Cinderella" and "Sleeping Beauty." Just kiss the prince animates girls. Like real life is postponed for later, when it's long-awaited beloved. "

But in fact, it turns out that we often live expectations. A sort of dreams of a bright future. Bearing in mind that the future of the not yet, and that it was waiting for us there, depends on what we do, what, and most importantly - how - we live today, now.

But as far as we thus are able to be happy, self-sufficient? It was at this point? After all, with the advent into our lives His not being able to enjoy life itself, without being willing to let your heart with love, we will gain automatically Happiness?

A little more Pravdinoy. "Learn to enjoy their life, regardless of whether you have now the favorite or not! Start with yourself. See how today you can make your life more pleasant, beautiful, happy.

Change the bedding to pink satin. Get your beautiful lingerie shop in the best and go to it at night, enjoy good spirits.

Start like myself!

Pamper yourself, let yourself cute antics, and you will be much more free and liberated when your life will be a long-awaited favorite. "

"What are you willing to give to another person, when he will be in your life? "- Always ask this question to those who approach it with similar problems.

And ... people often get lost, do not know what to say. Some are beginning to babble about the apartment, the car, the other about some of their own career success, someone else financial situation boasts ...

Stop. So you need someone? Maintenance worker, the driver, a man that promotes waste of your money?

No, not usually, usually still want to love ... But where to find it?

Prompt: in his soul, in his heart. We come into this world to love, to create, to live simply! By the very fact of our birth was exactly love, because love - that's life.

Not casually in astrology and vitality, and love are the responsibility of the same, namely the Fifth House. And it is through the manifestation of his energy describes things and events that pass through the heart, which come from the heart.

The fifth house and its natural ruler, the Sun - that they, first of all, we can be called sources, indicators and our lives, but also love. The love that is given to us initially.

In each person the love, the ability to give and take it, laid by birth. That is often only then that life goes on, and there is no love here.

Quote NM Pravdinoy: "When a man is lonely, he begins to play a game called" love "to get rid of the boredom and fear of loneliness at the same time. What we see as a result? Dissatisfaction, fatigue, boredom, jealousy, and other set of "joy" of family life. "

"Love your neighbor as yourself." Here, finally, we come to the original thought: 'Love yourself, love yourself.

"What for? "- Ask someone. "After all, I'm looking for the love of another person, and I love you for yourself" - is too often hear. And is offered in response to speculate on exactly given biblical phrase.

Yes, we are looking for the love of another person, in this case we are ready to give him their love. But, as you know, can only give what we have, we can freely give, than we can share. That is, to give my love to someone else, you need to have it we had (otherwise it will give something?).

And here is just to help us come "as thyself." Casket, it turns out, very simply opened: it should start with ourselves, with, to love yourself.

What prevents us? Why are so many common people for whom it is the ability to love yourself is something alien?

As mentioned above, we come into this world, carrying his love, and being willing to accept it, but we give her too.

Look at little children, every child - it's a miracle that he is happy everything is drawn to the new, he knows this world and he is - like, he simply breathes of love, bathed in it, but he himself, so much joy and love their loved ones presents.

As long as people quite a pipsqueak, we have nothing of it not require, but then ... the requirements (often excessive, as an adult it is so convenient), trying to cut under his comb ("I am a music lover, then my child is sure to be music to learn"), Merimee own standards ("neighbor Bob at this age ...") - and so on.