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You better know your crumbs and try to facilitate its adaptation in our world. Sometimes it is not easy with a child in a low, calm, reserved and shy. He's a weak, defenseless! Adults regret it and try to isolate from reality.
You have always and everywhere been the first. In a year when your peers only "tried on the tooth," the words, you're saying the entire sentence, and three, not paying attention to the guests, reciting "The Man with scattered Street Pool" ... Your husband is not timid: acted on All matinees kindergarten, participated in school competitions.
And your son is different. In the yard he prefers to play. In the town attractions, which are always full of kids, not let your hand. But the circus did not leave a single step.
This behavior psychologists call a predominance of inhibitory processes. The child is quiet, calm and shy, even somewhat detached. Communication with peers, he prefers solitude. A sort of a dreamer who often retreats into himself, a long time could look out the window or at the sky.
He does everything slowly on slow speed.
Many skills are masters of their yearlings later (especially if you run up close all the roads). But it often happens that a child knows much more than it seems parents (not just showing off their achievements).
Relationships with peers these children are different. They are often invisible in the group kept apart. Rarely raise a hand, even if they know the answer, do not hurry to take part in the new game. But it happens that a team like them, because they are non-contentious and do not try to command.
Sometimes the kids go into the world of their own imaginations.
Surrounding often believe that they are a weirdo or shine abilities (although they usually do not concede in intellectual development peers, and sometimes even ahead of them). But they simply could others, a certain shyness passed on genes (not necessarily from parents), and maybe the whole thing is just in the nature.
Watching your baby brings not only a lot of fun, but ... knowledge. You better know your baby and try to facilitate its adaptation in our world. Sometimes it is not easy with a child in a low, calm, reserved and shy. He's a weak, defenseless!
Adults regret it and try to isolate from reality. And this leads to the fact that the baby does not seek independence, resigned to the fact that he did not know how (mom and dad will do everything for it). This, of course, is no good!
Other parents behave exactly the opposite. They worry that an indecisive kid can not cope with life's challenges, and at all costs try to change it: organize a meeting with the same age, are recorded in various circles, forced to speak at matinees.
The child feels bad and his detachment from the noisy companies only increased. As a result, there is often a stress, and this - a direct path to low self-esteem.
Parents of shy, quiet, calm and closed children often hesitate to send them to kindergarten, all the more so
Some flatly refuse to go there. However, it may be that this is where your shy kid finds a kindred spirit, and no problems adapting.
Please choose for him that fits. Perhaps it will be a private garden with a good reputation, also close to home. On the first day leave the baby in the group for a short time - about two hours. Then try to leave before dinner. Then, take away his right after quiet hours.
And only a week take a chance to come for him at the end of the working day. This will help your child gradually get used to the children's collective, teachers and attendants, overcome shyness and become more independent. Over time, the toddler will love the garden, make friends with the children and, as adults, will remember him with gratitude and warmth.
This will facilitate his contact with others. Toddlers who easily lost, is unlikely to be comfortable in life. And although it is impossible to turn Tikhonov spirited child, you the strength to help him.
If the child is quiet, reserved and shy to follow a few important rules in the education:
• Do not try to do everything instead of crumbs, not patronize it with or without cause, but do not force.
• Stay calm, even if you see that his plan fails it difficult or he does it his own way. Give him a chance to achieve the desired.
• Praise him for any, even the smallest achievements, especially if they are associated with overcoming shyness (independent shopping in the store, questions to a teacher in a kindergarten).
• Each new task, non-standard situation discussed above with a child - a baby surprise rejects.
• Do not try to force him to overcome shyness: do not make recite poems to friends, or to speak in a garden. Do not write it in the pool or the circle "Skillful hands" if he opposed.
• apply methods of small steps. Kohl pipsqueak does not want to participate in the play, you can sing in unison with the other kids.
Related single chain DNA ...
Transfer aptitudes and character types inherited not an assumption but a fact. And it helped to establish ... twins! The idea of studying twins to ascertain what is inherited and what is formed by education, has arisen in the 70 years XJX century.
It turned out that in the actions and decisions of identical twins has a stunning similarity even when they grow in different conditions. One of the most striking cases - brothers George. And J. Springer. Lewis of the United States. Separated in age of one month, they met only 39 went through.
And it turned out that both had been married twice on women with the same name, both named the first-born - James Allen, go to the "Chevrolet" one model and color, have a rest in a small town in Florida, in his spare time loved to work with wood, and even their dogs have a common nickname - That.
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