The smile of happiness

"Think about what would make you happy? Really happy?"

- So begins an editorial one of the last issues of the magazine "Newsweek", devoted an entire issue to this topical theme.

Leading psychologists, sociologists, biologists and economists tried to answer a question worth a million dollars, "What is the secret of happiness?"

Maybe it's the money? If I were rich, I flew to the world itself, would buy what you want, and would have lived happily ever after. Right? No! In recent years, numerous studies have revealed an unexpected pattern: when revenues cover basic human needs, money is no longer gives him joy.

Feeling swollen wallet in your pocket, it starts to look around anxiously: And what about the neighbors? Sin repeated, but life itself reminds us of this: the dollar in your wallet is always greener neighbor.

Maybe we just need a rest? We will work less, relax more - and become happy? These hypotheses are swept aside by scientists "the threshold". Recently, School of Psychology at the University of Leicester in Britain published a global index of happiness.

In this list, "hardworking" America occupies 23rd place, far ahead of the "beach" France, which forlornly moping in the 62nd row. Researchers happy one after the other reject all established notions.

In the long run, they say, will not help us any promotion or the delights of family life or excellent health.

- But what is it that makes us happy? - We ask. In response, Professor somehow crumple. Some try to say something, but the words ring hollow. Apparently, it is easier to identify what does not bring us happiness, rather than to offer a practical solution to the backlog.

"Demand creates supply: the world more and more scientists that develop young science - economics of happiness ... Happiness is everywhere: in the best-seller lists in the minds of those who create policy, the focus of economists - and still it remains elusive" - ​​describes the situation Rana Foruhar, chief economic commentator "Newsweek".

Do we have at least some chance to decipher the mysterious die of happiness? Maybe it's better to wait until the bones themselves will fall as it should? So how should it be?

Mechanics of fortune

To solve this equation, says Kabbalah, we must first understand the essence of his nature: we all want to enjoy. "The creation of a whole, from beginning to end, created out of the desire of pleasure. All the many creation represent only a quantitative and qualitative variations of this desire," - Baal HaSulam, the great Kabbalist of the last century.

At first glance, it sounds quite simple, even banal. But the fact that the desire for pleasure acts much more sophisticated than we think. Pulling the invisible strings, it forces us to constantly seek redress.

All our actions and thoughts are directed only at this, and we can not rest until we reach the desired.

Sex, money, fame, power, knowledge - these are just some of the ingredients of the fuel, which requires this, who is within us, glowing reactor. The desire of pleasure determines the entire course of our lives, all the joys and sufferings.

Unable to achieve the desired - we are upset, and a successful attempt, on the contrary, increases our vitality.

Bottomless

Top of happiness - this feeling overwhelm us at the meeting of desire and its filling. "Stop the Moment!" - Delighted we shout, but no such luck. Each time the same story: I do not have time to look back, but there is no happiness - vanished like smoke. "In our life, only two tragedies.

One - it's when you do not get what you want, and the other - when you get. The second worse, as this is truly a tragedy. "The author of this statement - Oscar Wilde. And he was right!

How to change a way of thinking

Programming of positive thinking

Since the new year, I actively took up the transformation of their thinking and emotional state. Why, I was actively engaged in the change of their own destiny! Despite the fact that I'm on

an optimist, my head still occasionally ran the thoughts of a negative character (negative evaluation of the events, savoring unsuccessful version of the situation, sometimes slight flagellation and other masochistic pleasure).

In general, there were to be some thoughts and reactions that just become a habit because of their repeated scrolling in his head, which accordingly formed an undesirable situation.

After reading a couple of books, I have decided their old habits replaced by new ones. That is beginning to live in a state of happiness that arises from everything. I have learned to notice the things in life that previously were not visible in the background of everyday bustle.

There is so much beauty, that is able to constantly keep you in a good condition, is only to draw attention to it. It is life itself!

You just need to stop and look around, at least 5 minutes. Why do we live, if you do not feel happy? We were born not to suffer but to enjoy every moment of life.

After all, it is not infinite, and many just forget it, doing "more important things", for example such as the monotonous process of going from job to job, or cooking dinner, cleaning the apartment.

Somehow, in my childhood, some people call me Princess Nesmeyanov. Look at your old photos, I realized why. Until 2003, almost all photo adorned my face brick, shows no sign of activity.

I have a reaction to fleetingly caught a reflection in shop windows or in the mirrors of the premises. "Damn, you see a face and approached do not want to" - I thought, each time watching the same picture over the years. And it was truly terrible.

At heart an optimist, but outside it turned completely the opposite - "lifeless" look, drooping eyes, corners of her mouth went down. The general feeling is that my face was beginning to flow to the legs. What you will have the feeling at the sight of such a man? Well, that's what I think.

Met in 2003 with my faithful friend and favorite person, my condition has gone on the mend. The first signs were smiles appeared on my face, but their duration was some short.

Once there was a case which, I think I will remember all my life. We have somewhere to go. My boyfriend suddenly wondered why I was not happy. "A reason to be happy then? "- I asked a languid smile. He suddenly grabbed my hand and stuffed his mouth and nose. And I must say that the air I did not have time to type.

In general, attempts to escape or to have failed, and it is impossible to breathe. I'm already very tense when he let go and said, "Well, at least rejoice that breathe! "A really great, I thought, and since then as soon as I have a kind of decadent state, I remember this case.